Getting back together with your ex-boyfriend after a breakup can be very difficult. He never gave you an Instruction Manuel to the Male Mind when you started dating – and that’s when things were easy! Handling fights and a breakup is very difficult, and getting back together can be even harder. You have to know how the Male Mind works - and this article can help you with just that.
All is not lost after a breakup. There’s still things you can do to win him back. If you are really determined, you’re ready for the five steps to get your ex boyfriend back. First things first – you have to clear your mind of negative thoughts. Don’t pout and feel sorry for yourself. You have to be strong if you want him back – nobody wants to be with someone who’s sulking or depressed. You must not let your emotions control you. Don’t let depression keep you down. Negative thoughts will keep you from your goal, and you must actively fight to keep them at bay.
Secondly, you have to accept that the relationship is over. It will never be the way it was before. Wishing, hoping, and willing it back will not change the situation. Don’t dwell in the past; look toward the future. Focus on what’s happening in the present. The relationship you had with your boyfriend wasn’t perfect, and acknowledging the mistakes and problems of the past will build a foundation for the future. At this stage, you’re probably ignoring all the bad parts of the relationship. The relationship wasn’t broken in just one day. You won’t be able to fix it in a day either.
Third – don’t harass your ex boyfriend. Being obsessive is one of the biggest turn-offs to a guy, especially when he’s dated you before. You might want to just hear his voice or see him again, but stalking him will get you no where. Make yourself scarce so he can start to miss you. Once he realizes what he had, he’ll want you back. But if you are always around, he won’t have the chance to miss you – and start wanting you around again.
The fourth step is to be a girl he will desire. Take care of your appearance. Try some new makeup, clothes, or a new hairstyle. Start exercising and eating right, and if you’ve gained weight since you first met him, focus on losing it. When you look good, you’ll feel good. And when you feel good about yourself, you’ll be more confident and happy. Confidence is a major turn-on for guys. You will transform into an object of desire to men – and your ex boyfriend will notice (especially if you are using step number three and not obsessing about him or calling him).
The fifth step is to take it slow. If you’ve followed the first four points, your ex boyfriend will contact you (rather than you contacting him). Imagine how surprised he will be to see the new you from step four! He will start wishing he didn’t break up with you. But don’t make yourself easy or too available. Keep physical contact to a minimum – the harder it is to win you back, the more he will want it. Your confidence and new found good looks will make him want you. The more you limit your physical contact with him, the more he will want you. Forcing him to take things slowly – and making him work for his reward – will help ensure you don’t get back together and get dumped again. If he works hard to win you back, he’s not going to give up his reward easily.
These steps are not easy to pull off, especially when you are emotionally longing for your ex boyfriend. But if you follow the steps and resist the temptation to call him or visit him, you have a great chance of getting back together – and this time for good.
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