It’s been a while since you broke up with her but she’s still all you think about. You turn it over and over in your head trying to think of ways to get her back. There must be a way. After all, you got her once, you can surely get her again. Something happened to end it all. Can you undo that something? Even if it’s something she did, can you forgive her? And if it’s something you did, can you convince her to forgive you, and that it will never happen again?
Even if she does forgive you, it’s not likely to be the same as it was. At least not at first. But it is a first step in the right direction. It’s always important to say you’re sorry if you’ve done something wrong, especially to someone you care about. It’s important to be honest with her and with yourself. Honesty can help you get her back.
So let’s say you’ve taken that first step. What happens next?
You want her to want you just as much as you want her. That’s the way it used to be, right? Well it can be that way again, but it won’t happen all at once. She needs time to get over her anger. She needs time to step back and see the whole picture, and realize that people will make mistakes and if you don’t forgive and move on you never get anywhere. So don’t rush her. Just be as nice as you can be every time you talk to her and wait for her to come around at her own speed. And what if you are the one who is letting anger stand in the way? Since you realize now that you really want her back it is time to put your hurt feelings aside and listen to her. She may be trying to apologize but your anger is making you deaf to her words.
Listening well is a skill that women appreciate in men. She will appreciate it now more than ever. She will let you know that you are doing the right things, and to be fair she should also let you know when you are doing the wrong things. Don’t think this is a bad thing. This is your opportunity to improve yourself by fixing what is wrong. And when she sees your efforts at self-improvement, she will appreciate that you are even better than the boyfriend that she lost once.
All of your efforts should pay off somewhere down the road, just be patient. Eventually she will realize that you have all of the good qualities that made her fall for you in the first place and that you are working to make the relationship even better. Keep a slight distance and let her come to you after you have laid the groundwork for her to forgive and forget. Remember that the best relationships follow a winding road that is sometimes bumpy but if it is worth saving, then it is worth working on and doing whatever it takes to make it work.
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