Many painful emotions will surge through your heart when you break up with the person you love. You will miss them and feel sad, lonely, and hurt. You might ask yourself: How can I get my ex back? What should I do?
First of all, don’t play games. Many people overlook this important point, because playing games can give them a sense of power. If they can manipulate the other person into believing that they don’t care, or make them believe that they care more then they actually do, it gives them a rush and makes them feel powerful – able to control the others feelings. This doesn’t feel great for long, however. After a while you will find that lying, manipulating, and tricking your partner isn’t a good feeling after all. It undermines the foundation of trust, and the positive aspects of the relationship will be tainted because of it.
There are several common games people use to manipulate their partner. One such game is to pretend they are dating someone else, or to pretend that they’re in love with someone else. The goal is to make their ex jealous and to return. Sometimes this works – but often it cements the breakup because it backfires and destroys trust.
There are two results of pretending to date someone else – in one scenario, your ex could get jealous of your new-found flame and want you back. On the other side of the coin, however, they could decide you didn’t care very much about them in the first place, since you moved on so quickly. You won’t know which way it will work out – until it’s too late.
One thing to remember in any relationship: don’t be mean. During a breakup, it is easy for anger to flare up and we might be prone to say things we wouldn’t normally say. Even though your feelings are hurt, the fact that you are reading this article about winning your ex back shows that you want to forgive that person. If you weren’t, you wouldn’t be reading this article and you’d be glad the relationship was over.
Think about your actions lately. Put yourself into your ex’s shoes. Would you enjoy spending time with you, enjoy talking to you? Or would you have a feeling of dread at spending time with you? Take an honest look at yourself. Did you shout or nag at your ex? Even though you might feel like bringing up arguments, and even though you might feel that you have a good point, don’t argue.
You will have to work hard to control your anger and your hurt feelings – otherwise they won’t miss you that much. To get a second chance with your ex you have to prove you can change. Make sure you’re on your best behavior, and remind your ex (through your actions, not just words) why they liked you to begin with. Then they will remember your positive attributes and start to miss you. Then you will have a much better chance at winning back your ex.
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